Well, let’s see … what does my life look like right now?
I have a husband with a fatal, incurable, untreatable, degenerative brain disorder (Frontotemporal Lobe Dementia) who can no longer safely live in the same house as his family (we were all in danger from his increasing lack of impulse control).
I’ve become essentially a single mom to three teenagers. We’ve had to sell our nice custom-built house in a safe, quiet neighborhood so we could buy a mobile home located in a mobile home park in a not-so-nice area just so we can afford to support two separate households on a limited income.
New community. New church. New lifestyle. New everything.
And grief. Oh, my gosh, is there grief.
Grief for the man my husband used to be. Grief for the lifestyle/home/community we’ve left behind. Grief for the death of our plans and dreams of becoming full-time missionaries in Albania, one of the poorest countries in Europe. Old friends lost. More grief. New friends gained. More changes. More griefs.
:::sigh:::
Probably one of the most important things that’s happened over the past couple of years has been discovering who my true friends are … and also who they aren’t. Many people I always thought would be there for me if life ever got difficult just haven’t been. But then, on the other hand, I’ve seen folks who are essentially strangers step in and help in substantial and unexpected ways at various times.
I still feel like I’m reeling from the magnitude of changes that have hit our family.
But I also think I’m starting to see some light at the end of the tunnel. Not that anything’s changing. The situations are all still the same and continuing to worsen, but I feel somewhat rested after a summer of simply focusing on being a mom and bringing some joy, safety, sanity and stability into the life of my children. I feel almost ready to start thinking about my next steps and what the future might hold. And that’s a huge step for me. Honestly, for about six months, I thought the future held nothing more than forcing myself each morning to get out of bed — it was tempting to just pull the covers over my head and sleep the days away.
Gosh, it’s been a journey. A journey through pain, sorrow, grief, joy, faith, anger, sadness, disappointment, patience, changes, doctors, lawyers, poverty, plenty. And the journey isn’t even close to being over … it continues steadfastly everyday.
While we were searching for a new church after we moved, I met with a local pastor here in our new community, and after telling him the full story of what’s been happening in my family over the past few years, he said, “I don’t ever compare one person’s story to another’s, and then rate the stories according to who has the worst problem … but I can honestly say that yours is the worst situation for a young family that I’ve ever heard in twenty years of being a pastor.”
Wow. Heavy stuff.
But it was actually very healing to hear him say that our situation was beyond the realm of “normal” difficulties. A number of people in my life have tried to downplay our problems, as if by belittling the situation, it will somehow get better … or at least seem better.
But to have someone who handles people in crisis on a professional basis tell me that our circumstances are bad – REALLY bad — actually made the situations I’m facing easier to deal with than if I’d just heard another one of those well-meaning people try to make me “feel better” in the midst of it all.
Now I don’t want anyone reading this to think I’m about to roll over and die from depression or anything, but I also wanted any readers to have a quick peek into what’s happening and how serious it is for everyone involved.
And on a side note, I hear a lot of people say when they haven’t heard from someone who’s going through a crisis, “No news is good news.”
But I don’t believe that’s necessarily true. Sometimes the situation is so bad and so overwhelming that people can’t even put into words what they’re experiencing. I know there have been days when just taking a few minutes to pick up the phone to call a friend or drop an email to someone who cares was way too much work for me to handle.
So please don’t assume “no news is good news” in the lives of your friends, family, church members, neighbors, etc. Rather, assume your Loved One needs you to be the one to make the first move to check on them. Whether they’re in desperate need or not, they’ll still appreciate hearing from you, either way.
For a more recent update on how we’re doing, go to: October 6th, 2007
I just had to visit your site after the comments you left on mine. I am overwhelmed just reading of you struggles, I can’t imagine how you can be dealing with everything and yet reamaining so strong. Just know God is with you and Jesus is at your side.
Please come to my site often, if I can answer any questions or just be an ear to listen just know I am here.
Bill
Wow, life has thrown you quite a curveball. I have no experience to compare to your current situation. I can only say - I will pray for you and your family. Your clearly strong faith will help you weather this storm.
God Bless,
WC
I am still learning all the features of my blog and it was only today, I came across your comment about you daughter Kelsey. I had not realized she was your daughter until now. If I have been able to help or ease her way in the least I am very happy. She is an amazing young lady, I have learned much from her writings and have even listed her as a link on my site. You must be very proud of her.
Such an inspirational family, both of you sharing your thoughts and feelings. I feel blessed and honored to know both of you through your postings.
You are both in my heart, in my thoughts and prayers.
Bill
I was very touched when I read your page, “My life as it stands.” While I am not in quite hard of a time, my wife and I are in very bad times. We too have had to watch our dreams, dreams were thought were given and not too much to ask for, fade away and slip our grasp. Thank you so much for being willing to put the unhendered truth about your pain out there for everyone to see. Sometiems I feel like I’m the only one who is doing the same thing, and it’s nice to know that there are others who do time same.
I’m sure you’ve heard every form of encouragment from the people in yoru life, so I will not mince words with you in a pathetic attemtpt to do the same. Just know that your word have not only been heard, but appreicated as well.
Wow, I agree with the pastor on your family. I can hardly wrap my mind around what you are going through.
Just to give you hope and a bit of encouragement, we have just made it out of a dark place in our lives 6 months ago. I do understand some of what you are going through. We too moved out of a nice comfortable home into something a bit different…A camper in the middle of a public camping park. We lived there for 2 1/2 years. Through a series of hardships and dealing with taking care of a family member with cancer, who has since passed, we pressed on. It’s hard to hold the tears back thinking of that time. It was the hardest thing we have ever faced. I remember learning to be so thankful for even my next breath, and God’s mercy for allowing us to stretch what we had from meals to just keeping our head above water.
I will tell you that through it all, we grew closer as a family, our pre-teen children have learned lessons that I know will last a lifetime, and we all have learned the sweetness of our Lord in the dark. Our perspective of life has definitely changed.
As we were living in our camper, which I praise God that the park was wooded and had plenty of birds and squirrels. The Lord showed me the how special the Mockingbird was. It is one of the few birds that sings in the darkness and is always willing to learn a new song. I’ve learned some new songs too from our times there.
I also drew strength from a classic devotional called “Streams in the Desert” by Mrs Charles Cowman. It was given to me by a true friend…I now understand that too.
My heart goes out to you and we are praying for your family. Some people are afraid of change, I now embrace it and please know that this too shall pass.
Thank you for all you do and your willingness to help make others’ lives a bit better. And ultimately, allowing a glimpse into your families’ lives during this difficult time. May God comfort you and his presence be known to you more richly during this season of life than you’ve ever known before. –Melissa
Debi:
My sympathies to your family in this terrible situation. I just want to tell you that there is a factor in this situation which will help you, and that’s TIME. One of my children is mentally ill, and about 5 years ago it just came to a head. I didn’t know where he was much of the time, and when I DID know, the situation was always terrible. I would estimate that in a 5-year period, we spent about $100,000 trying to get help for him, and trying to fix the things that were wrong. It seemed like every day there was a new twist. He spent time in jail, and time on the streets. During this time, my husband lived 130 miles away, necessary for his work, and we only saw him on weekends. I would lie in bed at night and imagine the worst, and I sometimes prayed that I would not wake up the next morning, because I just couldn’t DO IT ONE MORE DAY. Then it occurred to me that I still had a 12-year-old at home, and I didn’t want him to find my carcass some morning. He was still kind of a little kid, and he deserved parents too.
A lot about our lives changed then. We DID lose friends, but other people stepped up and helped us, listened to me, took an interest in the younger son. I came out stronger, wiser, and yes, a LOT poorer financially, but we are all still standing.
My son is still not perfect, but he’s better, and I know now I can’t make him right. It is now and will always be a sad story. He can’t live with us, but we do have to help him financially. The younger one is graduating from high school this year, and he is a happy kid and a good student. I’ll always regret that a part of his life has been so hard, but that’s the way it is.
You will be in my prayers and my thoughts. I wish you the very best life possible. Take care of yourself. Jean
Debi,
Through your words, honesty and devotion, your healing may well be happening right now, but for others — even as you still wait for it to happen for you and your family.
I see you living out this quote from Mother Teresa (I’d not be surprised if you already know it well):
“Joy is prayer—Joy is strength—Joy is love—Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls. God loves a cheerful giver. She gives most who gives with joy. The best way to show our gratitude to God and the people is to accept everything with joy. A joyful heart is the inevitable result of a heart burning with love. Never let anything so fill you with sorrow as to make you forget the joy of the Christ risen.”
I also want to thank you for closing this message with a word about assuming “No news is good news.” I have a friend who moved to another state with his son to start a new job, leaving his wife and daughter here until he gets it established. I have another friend who was deported, leaving behind his wife and two sons, and was not here to see his baby girl born three months later. I’m going to reach out to them today, just to check in and check up on them.
Here’s another quote that’s attributed to Mother (though not sure of the authenticity), it might serve you well, too: “I know God will not give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish He didn’t trust me so much.” I see the incredible hardships my friends have gone through, and I think that God must not trust me with too much at the moment - and I’m so thankful for my ordinary struggles.
I’m blessed, I truly am. But then I believe we all are, if we choose to feel the joy even through the sadness. God bless you and your family, Debi.
- Jim
Dear Debi;
I have compassion for you and your family. I cannot imagine what it would be like to be in your situation. Much more, I cannot imagine what it would be like to be where you are without the love of God.
I pray for you everytime you come into my mind. I have learned to respond when the Spirit of God places someone on my mind; I know it is time to pray. I am way across the country, but my God is not limited by time and space.
In those dark times when you feel most vulnerable and alone remember that God has placed you on the hearts of many people, me included.
God bless you, Debi, and all those you love!
Jon in South Carolina.
I can’t thank you enough for your kind words and prayers. It means the world to me that people I don’t even know are lifting my family to God in prayer. Saying a prayer for you and yours in the new year, Jon.
~Debi
Thanks for stopping by my blog.
I had used to know a woman whose husband had died of the same thing. It always sounded so awful to me. Nothing like slowly losing the person you love to something as bad as this.
~Debi
And man, was that bad English or what…I had used to know…::blush::
Debi, I am on your frozen assest email group and you have blessed me by having it. My husband has an incurable cancer, but mostly he is still with us doing okay and I can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through. Please know that you and your family are being prayed for.
Beverly
Texas
Debi, I am new to the Frozen Assets list. When I read your post, I accepted your invitation and came here to read about your difficulties. Gentle hugs to you sister. I think you are coping with this horrible situation better than most of us would. My husband has been ill for almost two years. I can emphathize with you when you grieve at the loss of your husband. Mine is a shadow of his former self. I cannot imagine how it must be to have to sell your home and move to be able to cope with the situation you are in. I have no way to help you, or give you assistance, but to say that you and your family will be in my prayers. Stay strong.
My heart goes out to you. I know that the Lord above has the answers and the timeline and he too is walking with you through this journey May God be with you and I pray for you that your needs are met and your sorrows are lessened by his Grace.
Oh sweetie, you don’t know me but I’m praying for you. I’m a member of the FA group. My heart goes out to you and your kids. Your faith in God is so positive, and inspiring. Blessings for you and your family and prayers also for your husband who’s journey to be with Christ will be a smooth one.
Diane
Dear Debi,
I came to your post through the Frozen Assets list, and I promise to say a little prayer for your family each time the daily digest pops into my mailbox or I encounter your Frozen Assets book in my kitchen. I have had and currently have family members with similar conditions, and I understand the frustration and grief. Thank you for your candor and to help me appreciate my loved ones a little more today!
Michelle in Michigan
Debi
You and your family will be in our prayers. I am so sorry that this challenge has come your way. I can only hope that in the end it will allow you to continue to bless the lives of so many others as you have understanding for someone else going through this same path. I pray your children will also have peace and be able to find some understanding through all of this.
Dear {{{{{{Debi}}}},
I have been missing you. And now I know what you have been dealing with. All I can say is: well, this just sucks. I am sorry that you and yours have this trouble in your life. I can’t begin to imagine how God is working this to the good, but fortunately my lack of imagination has nothing to do with His abilities.
Please feel free to write to me at any time about anything. As you know, I have been through a very great deal myself so there is very little in the way of human emotion that I haven’t expereinced myself.
And aren’t the well-meaning people so very hard to cope with? I’ve been on the receiving end of the “why can’t you just jolly yourself up” messages myself. I realize that people can be afraid of contaigion when things go bad in someone’s life, but the Gospel bids us to step into each other’s shoes and bear each other’s burdens.
I am not sure which burden I will be privileged to carry for you, except maybe to hold onto the faith for you that God is working this to the good and that sometimes, His idea of good and ours is at odds.
I love you, my friend and sister,
Gloriamarie
Dear Debi,
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I get your Bright-kids email and noticed your blog link, wow. I don’t want to downplay what you are going through, I think God must have chosen you for this journey because He knew you could handle it, whereas, maybe someone else would not. You are couragous, and I hope God opens a window for you where he has closed this door.
Prayers and hugs,
Denise
Your story helps and encourages me as I work my way through mine. I found myself nodding and ‘uh huh-ing’ through much of the end of this post. Thank you for sharing it.
In my struggles, I find words are not much comfort, but hugs are very healing. So,
Hugs to you
Jennifer
I’m also from the FA group. I lost a good friend to cancer last year and will always regret not taking more time to be there for her. Please know that you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Mickey
Debi, a friend on a message board mentioned your blog (which I didn’t know you even had), and I am praying for you & your family. Overwhelming, yet, He is in control, He is watchful, He is standing beside your dear husband as He stands and holds you & your children in His wonderful Arms. He is good because of Who He is, and we can trust Him even at times like these… I’ve had to hold on to Him so many times in my life and presently too… sometimes it seems so big… but He is faithful. Know you are being lifted up by countless members of the Body of Christ.
{{{Many hugs & prayers}}}
~~Donna C
Thanks for the reminder to “go first”.
Funnily enough, yesterday I received a note from someone from church whom I hardly know. She wanted to let me know she was praying for me and she shared a passage that I needed right then.
Praying for your family,
Esther
a.k.a. “Mrs. Nicklebee”, one of Kelsey’s readers.
It sure does help when others don’t minimize the fear, sorrow and danger you’re facing. I used to be involved in more than one dangerous, abusive relationship, and I know what that particular wilderness feels like. There are no words to adequately express it. There are no simple platitudes that would not be insulting to you, or that would fix anything.
I want to applaud your courageous efforts to hang in there for your kids, and to do what you can to keep your head above water, spiritually and emotionally.
hi Debi: I wrote to you a long time ago…before Thanksgiving. I had wanted to do something to help you financially but as yet haven’t done anything. I just thought of something I can do after reading through your blog. I have a home-based business through Creative Memories and we have a beautiful mission that was written by our Christian co-founder, Rhonda Anderson. Our mission is to help preserve the past, enriching the present and inspiring hope for the future.
I would like to offer to provide you and your children with whatever album-making products you need to tell your family’s story, and your husband’s journey. It is my hope and belief that the process of preserving these memories could be both rewarding and cathartic for your and your family. During the darkest times, I believe it’s so important to remember the good that has come before all of this happened.
You can email me directly from my web site to let me know what you need to get started. I am also having an all-day crop on Saturday, March 24 and will let my customers know that I will be donataing 10% of my earnings from that day to you and your family.
With much love to you and your children,
I pray that you feel the hugs I’m sending you right now.
Peg
mmm.. nice design, I must say..
I heard of your blog through the Frozen Assets group. Thank you for sharing your experience and lots of ((((hugs)))) for you and your family.
Your blog hit home with me, as I have been dealing with my own health issues this year. To get through it, I was really leaning heavily on one of my friends for support to the point where I really felt guilty. After reading your blog, the guilt was replaced by gratitude for this wonderful friend of mine. I even shared the last three paragraphs with her as those resonate the best.
Dear Debi,
I was reading again to see if any changes had taken place and to let you know that out here in South Carolina at 2:00AM there is still someone thinking of you and praying for you and all those you love.
Of even greater comfort is that our prayers are not just mere words breathed into the air, but that Our Loving Father hears the prayers and answers in ways that sometimes we cannot see, but which move the heavens and send angels rushing your way just when you need it most. Anymore when I am moved to pray I always figure there is an immediate need, but sometimes a postdated portion of each prayer is left at the Fathers throne for times when He knows the need is most pressing.
God bless you and all those you love! In Christ Alone, Jon in South Carolina.
I’m so sorry for your troubles. Lord bless you sweetie!
Hi Debi,
Thank you for your honesty and your faith. I’ve been going through a dark time recently and someone said to me “God would never give you more than you can handle.” I’d heard it before (and probably said it too!), but it sure did feel like a kick in the stomach. He had given me more than I could handle… So, what does that say about me? I thought. Then I read 2 Corinthians 1. Not just verses 3 & 4:
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
(Which helps us find some portion of meaning in it all, but further on in verses 8 through 11:
8 We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about the hardships we suffered in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life. 9 Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. 10 He has delivered us from such a deadly peril, and he will deliver us. On him we have set our hope that he will continue to deliver us, 11 as you help us by your prayers. Then many will give thanks on our behalf for the gracious favor granted us in answer to the prayers of many.
Especially the end of Verse 8 — “far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life.”
I believe God does give us more than we can “handle” on a regular basis, otherwise would we really need him? Maybe our idea of what we can “handle” stems from a self-dependent attitude instead of a God-dependent attitude? And maybe we, at least I, shouldn’t measure myself on what I can “handle”….
Again, thank you for sharing your life and heart with us.
(((((Debi)))))
First let me say that I was thrilled to receive my Charlotte Mason e-newsletter and to discover your new website. It is beautiful and very well done!
I am praying for you, your husband, and children. I can imagine, but not really know, all that you are experiencing.
Suffering is never easy and it is a mystery. But I do think that as we follow Jesus closely as His true disciples, our lives will reflect aspects of His, and suffering was certainly part of His life.
But, if we can offer our sufferings to Christ with a trusting heart, I believe He can use it to pour out His grace on others. Suffering is not useless, and it is not without meaning.
I have learned that asking “Why?” can be an exercise in frustration. We will not always understand because His thoughts and His ways are so far above ours. But, I do know that His plans are for our welfare, not our woe, and that all things work together for good for those who love the Lord.
Last year my husband lost his job and was out of work for 6 months. We were not eligible for unemployment due to a loophole in the law. He finally got another job at 1/2 of his former salary.
This year, on Feb. 20, we found out my husband had cancer in his right eye. We have no health insurance, as we could not afford any. We think the radiation treatment has worked, but only time will tell.
As much as I do not like it, I believe that cancer will always be a shadow in our lives.
At the end of this month we will be moving to a 2 bedroom 2 bath apartment because we can no longer afford to live in our current home. The apartment is about 1/2 the size of where we now live.
We have learned the wisdom of taking things “one day at a time” because as Jesus said, “Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
We have learned that true peace and joy can come only from the Lord and that He is our Provider and Sustainer in all things.
And we have learned to be thankful to God for all things. Having a thanful heart, I believe, is a real key to contentment in life.
Sorry for the length of this post. I pray it encourages you. Please feel free to write me anytime. I would be honored to be your friend.
Sincerely in Christ,
Jeannie
Hi Debi,
I had lost track of what has been happening with your family and your husband’s health when I finally received the Simple Times email today.
I am terribly sorry to hear of all the difficulties you’ve been going through. Please know that there are a lot of people out there (me included!) that wish you the best and are thinking of you.
I know in my own dark time I prayed a lot. The people I thought were friends to my husband and I weren’t and we also found out that blood isn’t thicker than water. Know that the Lord blesses us in the most mysterious ways and he sends us special gifts at the times when we need them the most.
My prayers and best wishes to you and all your family.
Best regards,
Karen
Debi,
I have subscribed to Simple Times for a long time and was aware and so sad for your situation. Thanks for being open and honest. I asked for your Frugal for Dummies book for Christmas, hoping it would help your financial situation in some way.
I’ll be checking in here daily, hoping to encourage you.
Willow
I appreciate your being able to put into words your journey.
Don’t doubt that you have a gift and that God uses his saints to bring glory to His name. God Bless.
Debi,
I read your post on FA, and have had you on my mind these past months. I lost my dad to a form of Parkinsons with Dementia 5 years ago. Although I was not in your position, which is so much more difficult, I will never forget the deep pain from watching him try so hard every day to rise out of the mentle fog and let us glimpse the father and husband we knew and loved. It was as though he knew what we could see, and was caught in a web.
I want to send you a big hug and tell you that I pray for you and your family. I pray for you all to have peace and rest from pain.
Jay
May God bless you, comfort you and strengthen you through this time of trial. I will pray for you, your husband and your children.
Dear Deborah,
I can only give you my sincere thanks that you are still going. You have my deepest sympathy, you really have.
Now, is this problem genetic? If it is, have you had your children tested?
I know this is probably not a nice thought. I’m hoping that all is clear for you.
May God richly bless you and yours.
Dominus tecum
Leonie in Warrnambool, Australia
Hello - Recently my husband had a closed head injury that did not diag definatively via all tests. He had ‘episodes’ where he saw ’snow’ (like turning station on tv) and then his focus clicked back.
Well, he was left with left side weakness. Now after physical therapy of 6 months…has left arm mobility, but left leg weak/stamina low.
I could go on with the other assorted stressors that accompany this situation, but I don’t want to rag.
Do you have any insight from your experience that you could share with me regarding your husbands experience?
Amy in Michigan
Thanks for sharing, Debi.
This morning I awakened, feeling overwhelmed with the impossibilities of dealing with chronic illness, and was crying out to the Lord for comfort. Reading your letter took the focus off my problems, and helped me to see that my difficulties, thankfully, no longer include small children, and my journey is closer to its end than yours. It has been a long tiring journey, but God has been with me every step of the way.
You are a brave woman, and you are learning that nothing anyone can say or do will take away the struggles you face, but that God will hold you in His everlasting arms always, to protect, strengthen and comfort you.
I thank you for being so candid, and I am blessed by reading what you have written, and the answers of those who have responded to you. The writer who gave the words of Paul in 2 Corinthians 1:1-11, touched me in a way nothing has in a long time.
You, your children, and your husband will be in my prayers continually, for you to be sustained, mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, relationally and spiritually. God bless you beyond all our wildest imaginations. He is Faithful!
Yours in prayer.
Jacque
Hi Debi,
You wrote me a sweet email a while back about how buying a second-hand, but beautiful, quilt really made your day. Since then I have looked at my white chenille bedspread with more appreciation, and I have made the trek to our neighborhood laundromat more often to bleach and wash this old beauty–even hanging it in the sunshine for a little extra stiffness and whitening. I think taking good care of my white bedspread makes keeping up my bedroom, my sanctuary, easier. I guess I just wanted to remind you to enjoy that old beautiful quilt, even on this hot summer day.
Please remember you have friends you have never met out here, and that we care and are sending prayers and love your way.
Lisa
Debi,
I have been in awe of you since I first meet you on the Frugal Friends board. You were so young; so knowledgeable; had books published; you were my role model. Now I am even more in awe of the how brave you are in sharing this situation with all of us. Take care of yourself and your kids. I can’t imagaine dealing with a situation of this magnitude. Thank you for sharing it with all of your online friends.
Sending hugs ((Debi))
I wrote a similar type post recently.
You’re right though that people forget to check on us:(
It stinks–sometimes I don’t have enough energy to raise my hand and ask, but if they’d just ask I could tell them what I need.
I hope you got those albums and are working on them as you can:)
Lizzie
Praying for you today! I trust you will find Jesus to be your all-in-all during your extended time of difficulty. I am listening to http://www.abidingradio.com while I type. I think the music might be a great blessing to you.
Love in Christ,
Karen
Peace Dsimple,
A very thoughtful blog. God bless you and all that you do. God tests those whom He truly Loves.
Peace be with you
Abdur Rahman
Hello Debi,
May the Lord be with you. It’s shocking to read all that is going on in your life and I commend you for maintaining such an open, honest, and caring spirit.
Unlike some others, I am in a position to help you. May I send you a check, buy some books, buy some tupperware? Let me know what I can do to help you.
Thank you, Debra, SoCal
hi….. I believe what you’ve been through now, God has it own purpose.And it clearly showed that during the difficult stage of our lives we found the truest friend and people that will standby no matter what.We also found those people whom totally strange to us but in their little own way, they are ready in helping us. God is always in your side, when you feel down and wanting to give up. Think the undying love of God for you…Just keep your faith and trust with him……
Godbless you and your family…
Hi, Debi. I’m Eve, your fellow pilgrim out here in the blogosphere. My heart is full as I read all these messages, because I remember what my life was like when we had a dying family member. You think you are a believer, and you think you have believing friends, until you really begin to suffer. Then, as C. S. Lewis said, you discover there are Christians, and then there are BAD Christians. ;o)
But reading the exchange above between Deborah and you, in which Deborah, who has the “world’s goods” and wants to offer some of them to you, and you, who are in need… well I have to say God bless both of you. That’s James and 1 John all rolled up together. It’s absolutely refreshing to stumble across Christianity in action.
~Eve
Hi, Debi - I got to your site just looking for a recipe - God works in really mysterious ways. We have been going through some tough times ourselves, but nothing like what you and your family have been. Your site has been a real eye opener to me about how faith can sustain you through no matter what. I want to thank you for sharing what you’re going through. God bless you and your family - you will be in my heart and in my prayers.
I have been receiving your newsletter for sometime and think I remember you mentioning some of this there. Thank you for sharing what is going on in your life.
This is my year for health issues so, in a small way, I can relate. I just wish I could wake up and find it had all gone away and life was the way it was before.
I have no words that can fix anything for you. Just that I will keep you in my prayers and ask the Lord to bless you and your family.
Wow! I can’t imagine what you’re going through. You’ve been put on our prayer list at Thrifty Mommy.
Now, I can see why your daughter seems so mature. Keep up the good work.
I am really glad to have found your blog. Thank you for being willing to share, as you walk through the storm. I look forward to reading more.
Hi Debi
Though we have never met face to face, my heart aches for the hurts you are carrying.
I have never experienced anything like you are currently living out, but I do know that God has promised to never leave or forsake us, He tells us that he will never give us more than carry, that we can come to Him and He will carry our burdens for us, if we just cry out to Him and trust Him with the details of our lives.
I know, easy to say and harder to do-
Jeremiah 29:11 *amplified bible
God has good thoughts and plans towards me. He intends for me to have peace and not evil and to give me hope in my final outcome.
Psalm 9:9
The Lord is my refuge and high tower when I am oppressed, a refuge and a stronghold in my time of trouble.
Psalm 147:3
He heals my broken heart and binding up all my wounds (curing my pain and sorrow).
(((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))
Kimmie
mama to 6
one homemade and 5 adopted
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Greetings Again Debbi!
It is 11:07 PM here in South Carolina and the Lord our God has led me to your site and caused me to kneel at His throne placing you and all those you love carefully in His Hands. I know how He loves you, and I know He knows your needs even before we even ask.
This year God placed a scripture on my heart that gives me great comfort and great joy. Let me share it with you as it fits your place as well.
1 Peter 1:3-9, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil, or fade—kept in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes
even though refined by fire—may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor
when Jesus Christ is revealed. Though you have not seen him, you love him; and even though you do not see him now, you believe him and are filled with an inexpresible and glorious joy, for you are receiving the goal of your faith, the salvation of your souls.” NIV.
I hope that this brings you joy as you carry the cross of Christ where ever you go. I pray that you find Him close at hand in the lonely dark nights. I pray that He gives you the peace that only He can give when the world just gives us turmoil and confusion.
May God bless you and all those you love! Jon in Upstate South Carolina.
I should have written sooner. I actually was going to send snail mail…I have your address in Auburn. Are you still there?
I trust that you are doing well. My former spouse was diagnosed with Schizophenia, which is not your situation, but saying “good-bye” to that loved one, in so many different ways, is unbelievable. I had a fifteen year old and a four year old and I was a stay at home mom. Our lives changed drastically!
Today the girls are 35 and 24 and our scars have been covered by the Blood of Jesus. He was and is faithful…as you know, if He is for us , who can be against us?
Your heart will continue to fill with compassion for others because of your experience and suffering. We may understand in full in Heaven but for His Glory He has allowed these trials.
If your snail mail is the same, let me know.
A Sister in Christ,
Karen